What Would You Ask

by Brenda on April 24, 2012

The Women In a Woman

…once again or a first time, if you carried strength in your words? What are the secrets in a woman’s heart she carries to a grave? What makes a woman a woman?

What do you know with absolute certainty?
What continues to elude you after all you have lived through?


Do you know you as well as you’d like to think you do?

What makes you a good friend?

What would your best friend say about you? Would you and she/he be willing to be interviewed?

What makes you-you?

What have you said but regretted the instant the words left your lips?
What do you wish you had said instead?
Would you say what you felt if you had the chance again?
Would you ask why or why not?
Would you say:

  • I love you
  • I don’t love you
  • Go away
  • Stay
  • Please
  • Why not me

What do you think when the house is asleep and there is only you with the moonbeams lighting up your heart?

  • Is it about a lost lover
  • A lost moment
  • If only
  • Can I
  • I can’t
  • How can I

What do you believe to be true but do not reveal (fear of judgment, fear of exposure, or fear with no reason why)

  • There is God
  • There isn’t
  • I’m not sure
  • I might fail
  • I have no confidence
  • I had confidence but I left it on aisle 10 at Target
  • I tired once but failed and…

What do you want to do the rest of your life?

  • Stay where you are without any changes
  • With changes
  • Do nothing at all

What brings you joy?
What makes you smile?
What makes you laugh?
What leaves you empty, feels you up?

What are the secret desires hidden in the dusty recesses of your mind?

When was the last you did something reckless? Have you ever walked on the wild side or do you conform?

When was the last time you looked in the mirror and gave yourself a seal approval, loved the skin you were in?

What is your bravest moment?

What moment are you most proud of, least proud of?
If time travel were possible where would return and why?

Is the life you are in the one you thought you wanted when you left home?

I need your help. I’d like to tap into your own hearts and womanly passionate souls.

Me: I am living my passion. I write. I explore life—past and present—in words. I continue to explore all aspects of life, but not just mine. I am a student of human nature and reach outside of my world. I transcribe feelings I hear in conversations I have with others, but my world is finite. Many of you have lived several lives to my few.

I have lived a big life, loved and lost, been successful, failed, fallen flat on my face, killed time with passionate-less pursuits and watched while they died hard, lost and gained the same million pounds over and over again. I’ve lived in multiple countries, had two children, buried a parent, and watched my husband get stuck in the revolving door of the hospital. I’ve reinvented myself professionally a few times, stood in front of M16s, traveled, stalled, howled to the moon, and wished upon a falling star.

Still there are some things I will never know, feel, live through, fail, or succeed at, so many things I will not taste, touch, or breath in. But you have done all those things I haven’t.

I am exploring a woman’s heart through a series of poems but I need your help. My list is raw and not complete and will never be finished. It’s a lot to ask, but if you are so inclined, I invite you to answer a question or several, add something about yourself you know or don’t understand, add anything about a woman worth exploring I’ve missed (I know my list is barely scratching the surface of our beautiful selves).

Thanks kindly,