22 Things You Don’t Know About Yourself

  1. You prefer it when life works out the way you perfectly planned it.Body and Soul
  2. You are surprised when the detour from your perfectly planned life turns out better than you could have ever imagined.
  3. You are overwhelmed when life goes astray, especially when it’s worse than you thought humanly possible.
  4. You are shocked—yes shocked—to discover how miraculously you manage to overcome life’s obstacles.
  5. You continuously forget to acknowledge your achievements.
  6. You do not understand why your feelings are so easily hurt when your best friend and/or partner forget what matters the most to you, especially since you know what is most important to them.
  7. You don’t understand how your favorite pair of jeans can fit so perfectly but how a new pair—the same style, brand, and size—cuts off the oxygen flow to your brain.
  8. You don’t know why you can jump tall buildings, juggle chain saws, and never break a sweat, but how the smallest things can bring you to your knees and have you howling to the moon in despair.
  9. You forget to appreciate yourself.
  10. You don’t understand why or how easy it is for you to push yourself and your personal goals to the bottom of the to-do list, or later when the sun is setting why you feel deflated that everything you wanted to accomplish is still on the list.
  11. You don’t know why you continually forget it’s ordinary things, like walking barefoot on the edge of the shore, finishing a good book, or receiving letter or an email, will fill your soul and leave a smile on your face.
  12. You don’t understand why you make every effort humanly possible to control those you love, when you absolutely know control and love are combustible; even now after all these years it can still surprise you.
  13. You have a nasty habit of wishing your were inside of another’s body or life, rather than appreciating what you were gifted, forgetting that your drama and imperfections are what make you special.
  14. You put your dreams on hold for others. In fact, you put everyone else ahead of yourself.
  15. You let other’s opinions influence your life choices.
  16. You often give doubt carte blanche over your dreams.
  17. You don’t always say what you feel and later regret that you didn’t.
  18. You occasionally lose your temper, say exactly what is on your mind, and then spend days or longer regretting the words that flew through your lips in anger.
  19. You work too hard on maintaining the status quo, which stifles the growth that comes with letting go of the predictable.
  20. You love deeply.
  21. You avoid being vulnerable.
  22. You forget to take down your fears and give life a wide birth.

Give yourself a moment of appreciation today and give way to a secret passion.

What else don’t I know about you?


I’m a writer and hoarder of one-size-fits-all panty hose. Until the hose fits over my bum, I write to provide an alternative view on writing and perfection.

28 thoughts on “22 Things You Don’t Know About Yourself

  1. Brenda,
    Lots of insight here.
    #13 really resonated w/ me today. I’ve been feeling quite badly about myself….not good enough, ugly, fat, an ordinary writer, LOSER.
    I need to realize we are all unique & special & stop having this pity party.
    Thank you for reminding me.
    xxxx HOW ARE U?
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  2. Brenda, I’ve been in many of those self-doubting, self-deprecating positions in my earlier years. While growing older doesn’t always mean growing wiser, I feel so blessed that my life’s journey been one of acceptance of who I am, and learning to accept others as they are. I thank God for the wisdom He continues to pour over me each and every day.
    Thank you, dear, for a thoughtful and honest post. Hope those who see themselves in any one of these will search harder and deeper within to change what needs to be changed.
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  3. Thanks so much for this post, Brenda! I can relate to every single one of these. It’s good to know I am not alone in being so hard on myself and the others around me. I constantly feel like I am failing those around me – like I’m never enough. There is never enough of me to go around. And the only person putting pressure on me … is me!! Ridiculous.

    I am trying to work on letting things go!

    Thanks for sharing!!
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    • Jean, we are most sensitive. I have the occasional flash of exposure, but mostly I try to keep my vulnerable soul free from too much drama. Ha! It sounds good when I write it down.

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